"Can I sail through the changin' ocean tides?
Can I handle the seasons of my life?"
There are times in my life when the Talking Heads song, "Once in a Lifetime" loops in my head, particularly the line, "And you may ask yourself, well... how did I get here? You can ask yourself that question to help you grow, but, at some point, you have to get on with it. You have to accept the ebb and flow of life.
Here's how I do it.
Face it and accept it
Whatever it is, look it in the face. When quarantine first happened, I was baffled as to how I ended up living alone during a pandemic. "How did I get here?"
I got here because I chose it. There was a reason I chose it. Where I am right now is perfect, so everything that led up to it is perfect, too.
Blame and judgment have no place in this process. I chose how I chose in the moment, and it was right at the time. Something else might be right in the present that's different from what I chose before. I can't second-guess my choices from the past. It's over.
I can only choose right now. When I want to make a change, I choose now as the place to start. I try to be happy with what is now. If I'm not already there, I find something to be happy about.
The changing ocean tide
If you watch the waves move, you see how they ebb and flow. You can't force them to move how you want them to. They'll move how nature dictates.
Life is the same way. You can't force anything. It has to move according to your nature, your flow.
You have to trust that flow to be perfect. When you trust the ocean's flow because it's part of nature, you have to trust your flow too. You're also a part of nature.
Just like the ebb and flow of the ocean is beautiful, the ebb and flow of your life is beautiful. There's clarity in all of it if you look closely enough.
If you remember that, you can handle the seasons of your life.
Until next time... look behind and beyond the veil...
Sameena K. Mughal, Author, Freelance Writer