"All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost..."
Seeing with your eyes
Tolkien refers to Aragorn, an exiled king who lives as a scruffy ranger. He is treated as such for many years because no one knows his actual identity, not even him. Like the people in Tolkien's world, many of us make our judgments based on the superficial. We only see what has formed in front of us and not what could unfold. If we have the patience to look deeper, beyond what we see with our eyes, we can experience so much more in life and get what we want.
It makes sense that we are so involved with what we see. We have to negotiate the physical world to live in it. We make our decisions based on what we see and the knowledge we have. We don't touch fire because it'll burn us. Simple enough.
But not everything is that simple, especially when it comes to the people and circumstances of our lives.
In my life, I've made judgments of people based on superficial contact. I had two friends who were different. One told me the other one was "uppity" and out for herself. I almost agreed with her, but I started to spend time with the "uppity" one and realized how generous of spirit she is. She only seemed "uppity" to my other friend because she knows how to not deplete herself in the process of doing for others.
The one who made the initial judgment proved herself to be a miserable person and all-around energy vampire. Because of her generally negative disposition, we are no longer in contact. The "uppity" one is still in my life and supports me to this day. If I went by the other one's word, I would have missed out on a great person and a great friendship.
Seeing with our hearts
I went beyond what my eyes showed me about this woman. I saw her heart because I was looking at her with my heart.
I've gotten the most out of many situations when I've had my heart open. A few years ago, I listened to an imam speak on a few occasions, and he moved me. Since I'm not big on religious institutions and sermons, that was a feat. His words struck me because he never talked of fear or judgment, mostly talking about forgiveness and love. When I told him what his words meant to me, he only said, "You have a heart that's open to hear it."
And my heart has stayed open.
I created a life of freedom because I kept seeing the potential of what my life could be. I didn't stay boxed into the 9-5 concept or continuing to do work that isn't satisfying for the bigger picture. Working the hours I want doing work I love has given me the freedom I wanted. I did what I wanted to do and not what I had to do.
When your heart is open to see and go a little deeper, amazing things can happen.
Getting past conclusions
In a world of infinite possibilities, there isn't just one outcome. There are unlimited outcomes. It's just a matter of finding the best one. It isn't always the one immediately in front of you, especially if it's not what you want. When we stay open to potential and possibility. We can have whatever we want.
Until next time... look behind and beyond the veil...
Sameena K. Mughal, Author, Freelance Writer