Divine feminine and divine masculine are apparent and required in all of creation. For example, electricity requires a plug and an outlet in order to access the electrical charge necessary to operate appliances, electric tools, or electronics. A vehicle requires gas in order to run which takes the phallus from the gas pump and the entrance into the gas tank to bring in the fuel that generates the energies for the car to run. In order to co-create a new life, the phallus of a man enters into the vagina of a woman and within this space new life is created.
The interesting part of the human make up is that as humans we have the spaciousness for the embodiment of both masculine & feminine characteristics and traits. In this article, I’m not suggesting physical traits, necessarily but more so within the way in which we operate. Once an awareness is brought into the attributes of both the divine feminine/masculine energies you are able to better understand your life and how to balance between the two in a way that actually serves you.
Characteristics of the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine
What exactly do these traits look like? Below is a list of what makes up each side:
Make a plan
Stay in your own lane
Guide yourself & others through fears
Masculine is direct- ‘here is the deal’
Tangible outcomes & results
It’s a thinking state
Some of the ways it can be experienced in an overactive way would be:
Only my way
Black and white thinking
Tapped into self & others
Able to Connect to other people on a soul level
Spacious - like the womb
It’s a feeling state
Overactive or underactive:
Bleed into others
Not sure where you begin and others end
Lack of boundaries
In constant flow and can’t actualize goals
Recently, I worked with a female client who had been single for many years. She had hit a point in her life where she began to feel stuck. She was sensing a void, becoming hopeless, and feeling depressed. She expressed being tired of the daunting task of dating men who didn’t take the initiative to ask her out on second dates and would leave all the planning up to her, Also, she was frazzled by the emotional state of the men she dated who she described as being sulky, pouty, unavailable and extremely passive.
She was reaching her mid- forties and feeling as if meeting a man who she could settle into a relationship and eventually have children with was out of her reach. The very thought of living life alone for the rest of forever was devastating to her. As we continued to communicate, she revealed that she created a life for herself by being driven for success within her career. Her lifestyle demanded rigid structure, schedules, and dedication. She was constantly in an action state of striving, working and achieving.
We also discovered that this lifestyle, even though it had worked well for her in the past was not working so well for her at the moment. At that point, she desired being connected to a mate and her feminine side. She wanted a family to nurture and wanted to be desired and supported herself.
Imbalance one way
In order for her to align with a mate that embodied more dominant divine masculine tendencies, it was important to shed light onto the ways in which her life was dominated by masculine tendencies, awaken her into her divine feminine attributes, and open the ability to be in a receptive state of being.
Because she operated within the dominant state of somewhat overactive masculine energies while being disconnected from her empowered divine feminine energies, it would be virtually impossible for her to attract a mate that operated within his divine masculine side. Hence, that is why the men she had dated predominantly embodied traits of the more feminine energies in a disempowered way.
Over a few short months of coaching, she was able to reconnect with her divine feminine side and shortly thereafter met her divine mate. She married him, and approximately 6 months later, she learned that she was pregnant, about to fulfill her dream of being a mother.
Imbalance the other way
I, myself, operated on the other end of the spectrum. There was a time and place in the beginning of my business that I wasn’t being seen, heard, and my message was ignored.
I was disappointed that my needs felt so unmet. In fact on a financial level, I was sinking fast as I wasn’t able to cover my overhead. I remember thinking that I was not making a contribution in the world, and I was beginning to doubt my abilities. I wondered if I was supposed to return to working somewhere else that guaranteed a paycheck. The whole time, I had this voice inside of me that encouraged me to awaken and remember my dreams, what created my passion to serve others, and share my story to begin with. I somehow knew my dreams were valid, and if I was going to succeed I needed help. I decided it was necessary for me to hire a mentor that was successful within a soul-aligned business themselves.
After that, I discovered I was operating so far over into the divine feminine side of flow: compassion, understanding, feelings, acceptance and holding space for others. At the same time, I didn’t have structure, drive, a solid plan of action, dedication and boundaries. Without these traits, I sabotaged myself and in turn, didn’t attract clients who were willing to invest in themselves. Even if they were, me being over-sensitive blinded me to the fact that they actually were ready to invest or they would not have been sent to me. I realized that by being overly nurturing and sensitive to the needs of others above my own that I was creating an abyss of hopelessness for me to sink into. I questioned my ability to show up in the world.
Aligning with what you want
Once I brought awareness into the dynamics I was operating within, I was able to shift my state of being into being more curious, motivated, and peaceful. I experienced more joy and created a more magical experience for myself. The conditions of my business, my finances, and the way I showed up for my clients improved. Over a short period of time, platforms presented themselves to me that opened up venues to share my story, reach people on a global level, and guide others into discovering more about themselves. I witnessed their growth and achievements as they aligned with their dreams.
As you can tell from the stories I shared above, exploring the inner and outer structures of the divine feminine and masculine is a vast sea of greater understanding of your inner world and outer world. It’s a journey I highly recommend. The good news is awareness is the antidote to all of life’s struggles, and life as a whole can always become greater than it currently is.
Kristy Lee is an author, empowerment coach, radio host, teacher, and Reiki Master Teacher who accesses the Akashic Records as a means to assist clients around the globe into finding their power and obtaining freedom.